August 10, 2017 In Boundaries, Change, Confidence, Control, Doubt, Feeling Invisible, Friends, Hiding, Narcissistic Friends, Personal Growth, Relationships, Thinking Thoughts, Transitions By Lisa Lieberman

I Now Avoid Narcissistic Friends. Here’s How.

I’ve spent most of my life living in the shadow—especially in my close friendships.

Throughout my young adult life, I gravitated toward close friends who were charming, magnetic and lots of fun to be with. And they were certainly happy to have me in their lives: I was a great listener—the kind of person everyone would go to for advice, to complain, or to talk about themselves. I would always listen patiently. I was a warm and loving shoulder to cry on, a dependable problem solver, a loyal, available, and agreeable companion. I had a good sense of style that my friends admired and often even copied. Who wouldn’t want to be my friend?

Of course, I had never learned to be a friend to myself.

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March 14, 2016 In Self Criticism, Thinking Thoughts, Uncategorized, Worst Case Senario By Lisa Kayne Lieberman

How a Narrow Rocky Hiking Trail Taught Me the Secret to Going After What I Want in Life

You know when you really want something—a relationship, a new career, more fulfilling friendships—but you just can’t seem to make progress towards getting it?

Do you procrastinate in one of a thousand ways?

Do you focus on all the reasons why you can’t get what you want?

Are you afraid to take that first step to do what it takes to get it?

I’m going to tell you a story about my hiking trip to Utah this past summer, and how I learned a secret on a narrow, rocky hiking trail that helped me not only conquer trails I never thought I could climb, but also showed me how to take steps ahead in my everyday life—how to get unstuck, so I can get things done, and start moving towards getting all the things I want in my life.

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February 16, 2016 In 40s/50s/60s, Awareness, Discovery, Friends, Insight, Narcissistic Friends, Personal Growth, Relationships, Thinking Thoughts By Lisa Kayne Lieberman

9 Things I Learned In My 60s That I Wish I’d Known In My 20s

You know those moments when you look back on certain things in your past and you can’t help but cringe? Sometimes, you may not even recognize the way you acted. Well, me too.

We’ve all been there. There’s no one on this planet who hasn’t felt at least a twinge of regret, embarrassment, guilt or shame (or any other of those “fun” emotions) about their past. But the irony is that the “regretful” things we say, do, don’t say, and don’t do allow us to know who we are, who we want to be, and learn what we really want in our lives.

When I look at my difficult experiences, both past and present, I see gifts, even if they’re not wrapped in particularly pretty wrapping paper.

With that, I want to share my list of the nine things I learned in my 60s that wish I had known in my 20s:

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